Nope, this is not what you think
it is. Friends with benefits -- friends who would only want to hang out with
you as long as they get the benefit. No, not sexual benefit but perks and
tokens and free things. Do you get me yet? This is the same concept as girls
leading you on while you court them as long as they are enjoying your gifts.
They will accept your gifts even if they don't really like you because, hey,
it's free anyway. They have nothing to lose.
So what is my point exactly? Okay, what I'm trying to say
is, it is really difficult to find real friendship in this world full of
plastics. At one point in your life, you'll have a lot of friends. But as you
grow older, you'll retain just a few. Me, I'd rather have few who are genuine and
will be there to stay than have a lot but half will stab you in the back.
Quality over quantity.
One quality of a person that really turns me off -- one
who always wants something for "free". One that will get you drunk if you
had to drink every time he or she mentions the word "free". Is it all
about money for us nowadays? I don't know but maybe my parents brought me up
differently. Or maybe because my father was a public servant when I was growing
up and learning things. My mother specifically told me that I should not be
falling in line to receive freebies when I, myself, have enough to give the
freebies.
Okay, enough of the freebies because I'm tired of those
plastics and barbies. Let me just tell you about how I want my friends to be. I
want my friends to be crazy, rarely say I miss you and I love you and all that
mushy and cheesy stuff but when we say it we know that it's true. We rarely
talk about the serious stuff because once we do, tears will begin to fall. And
once talk includes tears, boy we need a drink. We talk about problems and we
have each others' backs. We keep our circle tight and close and not expand just
for connections. We are brutally honest and we value trust.
My main point is that I'm never gonna be okay being
friends with people who only wants to hang out with other people because they
get something for free. I'd rather fly solo. -C
