Celebrate Us

 

 

     If you are a single woman in your late 20's trying to achieve more in your life, or a single woman in your mid-30's enjoying the fruits of your hard work by doing whatever, or a single woman in your late 40's very much accomplished and still enjoying life, then maybe you are tired of people asking you when you are getting married, right? Well, I'd say keep enjoying life. You do you, girl. 

     Not everyone has the same set of goals. If your friends' goal is to get married and have kids, maybe that’s not yours. If your coworker's goal is to be a housewife, maybe you don't like that. If your neighbor's goal is to buy a house and a car, maybe it's not yours or maybe you already have them. What I'm trying to say is... everyone's priority is different. The problem is that people around you think you are incomplete, despite all the accomplishments, because you don't have a man. That doesn't sit well with me. I mean, I am a strong  and independent woman. Is that not enough? Am i not enough? Do we still live in an archaic world where women are viewed as human beings second to men? *eyeroll* So much for women empowerment.  

     Let women be successful, cheer for them, cheer for us! When we achieve a goal, don't tell us that something's missing, tell us we're doing amazing. When we reach a milestone, don't tell us that we're now ready for marriage, celebrate us and encourage. Women are meant to do great things, push us to do it, lift us up. Not that we need lifting but let us not tear each other down.

     It is really tiring to have to hear and answer the "when are you getting married?" question as if it is inevitable like death. People asking this need to be reminded that getting married and is also a choice. Just like buying a new pair of shoes or taking a nap in the afternoon or eating dinner. You can choose not to do it. In the end, it is your life -- your decision, your choices, your rules. -C